MUST READ: Relationship Rules Every Partners Should Adhere In 2017 and 2018. Yes, rules, especially relationship rules do not work for everyone.
The fact that it worked for pair A does not mean it would work for pair B. Here are some few basic relationship rules you should follow in 2017 and 2018
NEVER GO TO SLEEP ON AN ARGUMENT
You might have been doing this before but hey, this is a new year….never go to bed on an argument. Trying to calm down and saying sorry before bedtime shows how matured you are. Argue it out, make your points known, let him or her know what you feel deep inside but never go to bed without settling every bit of your issues.
TO KEEP A MAN YOU MUST BE A MAID IN THE LIVING ROOM, A COOK IN THE KITCHEN AND A WHORE IN THE BEDROOM
Forget about what you see in movies. All of them are stage-managed. That is why you cannot afford to get advice especially relationship advice from most of our celebrities.
There marriages tend to be measured in hours not years. As much as possible, be the ‘woman’ in your own home. Control things, do not be too big for your roles as the man or woman of the house. For women, being a great cook, a neat lady and a ‘seductress’ for your husband all goes a long way in making your relationship work!
TREAT THEM MEAN TO KEEP THEM KEEN
If being anything from off-hand to downright nasty to someone encourages them to want to spend more time with you and develop a meaningful relationship then you do need to question your lover as well as yourself.
Exactly why are they enjoying your meanness? What is the big flaw in their psyche that makes them drawn to it like a moth to a flame? And what will happen if you forget your ‘rule’ and are accidentally kind to them in future?
In terms of behavioural analysis, your meanness will only really be compatible long-term with a more submissive personality. If that’s what you want, then fine but if you’re hoping to use it to tame a stronger, more dominant type then remember the compatibility of that change might just be temporary.
KEEPING THEM HAPPY IN BED WILL STOP THEM STRAYING
Well, this rule might not work 100%, it sure worth emulating. An exhaustive and exhausting approach to cex should ensure your partner never needs to go looking for it anywhere else, or at least this is what this ‘rule’ seems to imply.
And surely it would be more comforting to think your relationship is based on a balance that involves emotional commitment as much as relentless duvet-action? Plus it has to be said that there are some people who will stray no matter how good cex is at home. The accompanying cliché to this rule is all about people who have fillet steak at home won’t go out looking for hamburgers but that is patently untrue.
Good cex is clearly a bonus in any relationship but when you believe it is vital to prevent your partner from looking elsewhere you’re probably not in a warm, relaxing and trust-fuelled marriage. Have cex because you both enjoy it, not because it creates some kind of physical leash.
ALWAYS TALK THROUGH ALL PROBLEMS IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP
This rule needs to be followed to enjoy its benefits. It is never a good thing when problems become so bad in a relationship that communications cease. It is also corrosive to suppress your upset or irritation via sulking or silences that convert to resentment and passive-aggressive outbursts. Talk to your partner about what is in your mind…it also helps your well-being.
BE HONEST. TRUST IS VITAL
Honesty, who can fault it? And how many times do you hear the phrase ‘It’s not what you did; it’s the fact that you lied.’? Trust is important in a relationship but there is honesty and there is tact and discretion. Projectile honesty can endanger a relationship because there are times when we speak our mind when silence or even a ‘holding’ lie might be better.
If your partner has spent a long time getting ready you might decide to ditch the honesty for flattery if you know it will boost their self-esteem and make them smile. Ditto their work skills and ditto your opinion of their irritating relatives.
Many relationships are formed on colluded lies. A woman might tell her guy that he is the handsomest man she has ever seen and although that is probably untrue the sentiment is real and enjoyed for what it is